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For me, the internet took dating out of the "well, this guy gave me a line and he looks cute, let's see what he has to say" realm and into the realm of knowing another person's interests, and possibly personality traits, before ever having to respond to their first pick-up line.
If J and I had met at a bar, or a party, how would I know him from any other tall, lanky, quiet fellow? How would he know me from any other short, curvy brunette? Would we have had the same impetus to talk to each other if I hadn't known that he's met [interesting celebrity] or that he loved interning at [major comic book company] and he hadn't ever seen my Kaylee costume or my lists of favorite media? Would I have known how humble he is by first glance without his "I hate talking about myself, I got my friends to answer my profile" format? Would he have had the same impressions of my personality from watching me across the room or making superficial small talk as he did when I was trying to give a complete and accurate text description of myself?
Hell, we have mutual friends, and they never thought to introduce us. Why would they? J had just gotten out of a looong relationship and we lived 200 miles apart. How would we have known without our OkCupid profiles?
So, for me, I'd say whatever the Internet did for dating, it did it right by me. It took away the element of needing to be physically in the right place at the right time in order to meet the right person.
Now, why on earth can I not set this to public? I didn't realize there isn't a manual override for my Friends Only journal.
Edit: Well, now it's letting me. Apparently when I'm posting I can't set it to public, but I can whenI edit?
For me, the internet took dating out of the "well, this guy gave me a line and he looks cute, let's see what he has to say" realm and into the realm of knowing another person's interests, and possibly personality traits, before ever having to respond to their first pick-up line.
If J and I had met at a bar, or a party, how would I know him from any other tall, lanky, quiet fellow? How would he know me from any other short, curvy brunette? Would we have had the same impetus to talk to each other if I hadn't known that he's met [interesting celebrity] or that he loved interning at [major comic book company] and he hadn't ever seen my Kaylee costume or my lists of favorite media? Would I have known how humble he is by first glance without his "I hate talking about myself, I got my friends to answer my profile" format? Would he have had the same impressions of my personality from watching me across the room or making superficial small talk as he did when I was trying to give a complete and accurate text description of myself?
Hell, we have mutual friends, and they never thought to introduce us. Why would they? J had just gotten out of a looong relationship and we lived 200 miles apart. How would we have known without our OkCupid profiles?
So, for me, I'd say whatever the Internet did for dating, it did it right by me. It took away the element of needing to be physically in the right place at the right time in order to meet the right person.
Now, why on earth can I not set this to public? I didn't realize there isn't a manual override for my Friends Only journal.
Edit: Well, now it's letting me. Apparently when I'm posting I can't set it to public, but I can whenI edit?
